The Apostle Paul
Colossians 3:19BSB·traditional attribution

Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

John Gill Reformed Baptist

Husbands, love your wives,.... See Gill on Eph 5:25. and be not bitter against them; turning love into hatred of their persons; ruling with rigour, and in a tyrannical manner; behaving towards them in a morose, churlish, and ill natured way; giving them either bitter words, or blows, and denying them their affection, care, provision, protection, and assistance, but using them as servants, or worse.

William Burkitt Anglican

Observe, 1. The general duty of the husband declared, to love his wife with a special, peculiar, conjugal affection, and to discover this love by a tender care over her, an affectionate regard to her, cohabitation with her, contentment and satisfaction in her, a patient bearing with her weaknesses, or prudential hiding of her infirmities, a cheerful supplying of her wants, a readiness to instruct...

Geneva Bible Notes Reformed

Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them. (11) He requires of husbands that they love their wives, and treat them gently.